It was through a good friend’s post yesterday on facebook, that I was compelled to write my thoughts today on one of the most sacred institutions of Sikhism, that being the Gurudwara (Sikh place of worship). Growing up, my parents inspired me to include the Gurudwara as part of my life. It was the standard to attend any Gurudwara on a Sunday. This allowed us not only to pay our respects to the Guru, but to be with sangat (congregation) over a platform of divine ambrosial sound currents of kirtan, inspirational “vichaar’s” (sermon), a motiviating and energizing “ardas” (prayer), a captiviating and humbling “hukamnama” (hymn read from the Holy scriptures after an ardas), followed by the Guru’s blessing’s of “parshad” (an edible sweet made of flour, butter and sugar). Next was pangat, where we would sit together on the floor to receive “Guru-ka-langar”- an opportunity to be reminded of how fortunate we were to be taking in food, how humbling it was to serve unconditionally and that we were essentially all the same light of God. Each week, we went through this process. At first, it may have seemed like a process; one which I did not disagree with too much (unless I was going to miss an NBA final) or argue my case for not wanting to attend. I soon realized, this process was no longer a process, but became a journey in itself. Gurudwara was something I looked forward to at the end of the week. It was my time to “settle” myself, and “de-stress”. It was my special day of every week where I would find myself becoming “new” and “refreshed” again—as if I became reawakened each time, only to discover more things about myself and my Guru, and the sangat. The experience became an experience of family, closeness, brotherhood/sisterhood. I could count on having this experience each time. There were no agenda’s, there were no ego’s. Nothing had evolved in a negative way. The Gurudwara was consistenly producing positive vibes, positive activities, positive results. I attribute this to the “no-agenda” rule that seemed to come naturally for the sangat. It was an “all for one”, “one for all” attitude. Just imagine how I felt as a little sardar with my tight knit “patka” to see and take this all in. It was just so overwhelming in a very good way of course. This Gurudwara experience made me feel so special, so loved, so comforted, so important, so strong. To add to this beauty, I knew that all my friends, uncle’s and aunt’s felt the same way. (By the way, we call every person of our parent’s generation “uncle” and “aunt”). Each of us would leave with our “cup” so full , that the upcoming week seemed to flow with such ease, confidence and poise. I stood with such great pride amongst my friends at school feeling like any challenge was surmountable; any situation was conquerable. The Gurudwara experience was the source of my love for life.
As the year’s have passed by, I still attend Gurudwara’s. I still take in the sounds of kirtan. I still listen to the katha vachak’s (priests that give inspirational speeches/sermons). I still stand with pride and dignity as the ardas is offered to the Guru. I still listen to the hukamnama which consistently reminds me to be humble. I still look forward to sitting in pangat to experience the connectedness with each other. Yet, I do not feel as “still” as I did before. I reflect on this deeply. What has led to this? Sure…it could be me. Perhap’s I need to work on myself more….look more deeply and re-visit what seemed to work when I was younger…then I ask, what really was working when I was younger that allowed me to have that Gurudwara experience every week, every day? Then I look at what has remained consistent. Consistent has been the Guru’s word, the Guru’s kirtan, the gathering and congregation of the sangat and pangat, the ardas, the distribution of Guru’s kara parshad. I then look into the mirror and say to myself, I can still sleep with a good conscience… sure….I can continue to improve myself, but I feel I carry my life with the same values that were instilled in me as a little “patka” tying sardar. So for sake of argument, let’s say that I have also been “consistent” in my journey for the context of the Gurudwara experience.
So many things remain consistent, yet no “stillness”. I look around, I hear stories of conflict, hatred, jealousy, anger, violence…violence….more violence. No….I am not talking about what may be happening globally around the world. I am speaking of what is happening in our Gurudwara’s. What was intended to be the dream experience for all of us, especially that “patka” tying little sardar, has become an experience that we might quite frankly be afraid to be part of…or that we might have resentment and frustrations towards. Why are things like conflict and violence existing in the Gurudwara experience? Read carefully, “THE GURUDWARA EXPERIENCE” not “THE VIOLENCE EXPERIENCE”. The two should not co-exist. These conflict’s have taken the “experience” out of the Gurudwara; the anger has dissolved the love and comfort that we would have felt…. jealousy has transformed nurturing energies of equality, brotherhood/sisterhood into those of competitiveness and destructive types of attitudes. These by the way, are all “man-made”. Love, nurturance, oneness, are all gifts of the Guru; they are always there for those who seek to receive them.
I look at the mirror once more and reflect again….I will not stop attending Gurudwara even though I realize I can have the Gurudwara experience even in my home or at a retreat. I must continue to set an example for my children that amidst the turmoil that exists today within our Gurudwara’s, there is still that consistent ray of light….the Guru….I must always remind myself that if I continue to do my little part in inspiring other’s about the true Gurudwara experience, I will remain hopeful…other’s will remain hopeful..
This story is not done…I realize there is so much more to write….this indeed, is not the complete answer. I am firm about one thing. When there is conflict, hatred, jealousy, violence, there is ego. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure that out….then again, perhap’s there may be some truth to that for those who seemed to have lost the whole meaning of the Gurudwara experience.